I've finished planning my 2015 resolutions! I mentioned how I went about it this year in this earlier post. I'm taking a new approach, and am trying to make resolutions that will help me feel the way I want to feel this year, rather than being a list of habits to break or places to visit or pounds to lose. I'm going to post the list here, and then make weekly updates to hold myself accountable and stay on track. I hope you'll join me each week!
Wednesday, December 31, 2014
Tuesday, December 30, 2014
Gratitude - Day 363-364 - Dec 29-30, 2014
All our family visitors have gone home. The kitchen has been emptied of sweet treats that were delicious but too tempting for my own good. The laundry is busy washing towels and sheets, and the wrapping paper and glitter and cookie crumbs have been vacuumed up. The house looks neat again.
Creating My List of Resolutions
As we approach the end of the Christmas season and head into 2015, it's time for a little reflection. A look back and a look ahead. Normally I don't really make a list of "New Year's Resolutions" per se, but for some reason, this year I'm feeling a real and urgent need to set some direction for myself in the coming year. I don't know why. But if there's one thing I've learned, it's that I need to listen when my heart is telling me something. And right now, it's definitely telling me to get myself organized for 2015.
I've had two major influences this year for how I'm going to approach my resolutions. One comes from the Desire Map concept, originated by Danielle LaPorte. I'm intrigued by the concept of making plans based on How I Want To Feel, rather than what I want to accomplish. I want my life to feel good, not be a list of things to do or stuff to accumulate. I've been mulling over the last few weeks, thinking about what feelings I experience now that I want to keep experiencing, and what feelings I don't yet experience but want to. It's been in the back of my mind for a while now.
The other influence is Mavis Butterfield's 2014 project where she came up with a list of 12 things she wanted to accomplish in the new year, and then she posted weekly about her progress against that list. I like the idea of publishing my list, and reporting weekly on my progress. Not because I have anything to prove to anyone, but because getting into a regular practice of reviewing my resolutions will undoubtedly keep me more faithful to the list than if I just declare it in January and never return to it again. I like the idea of a regular check-in, and publishing it on the blog makes it more real and more official, somehow.
Right now I'm working on creating my list. Here's my process:
1. I created five categories: Self, Family, Home, Friends/Community, and Sweet Adelines. I wrote them all down on a sheet of paper, leaving lots of room for brainstorming under each category.
2. For each of those categories, I'm writing down how I want to feel this year within that category. For example, under the "Family" category, I want to feel Loved/Loving, Connected, Fun, Supportive. Under the "Sweet Adelines" category, I want to feel Artistic, Invigorated, Challenged, Creative, Fun. And so on, for each of the categories. There's no right or wrong answer here. There can be overlap between the categories - you'll see "fun" show up on almost all of my category lists.
3. Next, I'm brainstorming. I am listing what kinds of things I can do so that I can end up feeling the way I want to feel. This step is a true brainstorm - no judgment or evaluation of the ideas yet, just list anything that comes to mind that could contribute to the feelings I'm seeking. For example, under the Sweet Adelines category, if I want to feel Challenged, then I could take vocal lessons, try new kinds of music, take on a more active coaching role, etc. I'm making a big, long list of ideas, and really putting some "crazy" ideas down that will stretch me and put me a little bit out of my comfort zone.
4. Next, I'm rearranging, organizing, and prioritizing the list of things to do. This is the step I'm at right now. I've got way more ideas listed than I'll realistically be able to do, mainly due to time and money limitations. So I have to make some choices about which ones will be most likely to help me get to those feel-good feelings I'm looking for. What do I really want out of my 2015? What things will really help me get there? I'm paring down my list, choosing things that might cross categories, choosing things that will stretch me, or will most likely satisfy my wishes for feeling good.
5. Next, (when I'm done with step 4), I'll make my list of Resolutions, and publish them here. I'll do a weekly check-in here too. I'm committing to myself to not lose sight of my goals, to give myself the gift of follow-through. I'll have the weekly chance to evaluate and re-evaluate, and if things aren't working I'll be able to change things up to get back on track.
I'm in the middle of Step 3 and Step 4 right now. In the next day or two, I hope to have this process complete, and ready to publish.
This is by far the most thorough and involved New Year's Resolution activity I've ever completed. It sounds like over-kill maybe. Too structured? Too intense? I don't know. Maybe. But maybe it's just what I need right now. I'll give it a go, and check in later to see how it feels.
How about you? Are you making any resolutions for 2015? Or do you swear off resolutions? Are you doing something else to guide your path through the coming months? I'd love to hear about it. Please do drop a message in the comments, let's chat!
I've had two major influences this year for how I'm going to approach my resolutions. One comes from the Desire Map concept, originated by Danielle LaPorte. I'm intrigued by the concept of making plans based on How I Want To Feel, rather than what I want to accomplish. I want my life to feel good, not be a list of things to do or stuff to accumulate. I've been mulling over the last few weeks, thinking about what feelings I experience now that I want to keep experiencing, and what feelings I don't yet experience but want to. It's been in the back of my mind for a while now.
The other influence is Mavis Butterfield's 2014 project where she came up with a list of 12 things she wanted to accomplish in the new year, and then she posted weekly about her progress against that list. I like the idea of publishing my list, and reporting weekly on my progress. Not because I have anything to prove to anyone, but because getting into a regular practice of reviewing my resolutions will undoubtedly keep me more faithful to the list than if I just declare it in January and never return to it again. I like the idea of a regular check-in, and publishing it on the blog makes it more real and more official, somehow.
Right now I'm working on creating my list. Here's my process:
1. I created five categories: Self, Family, Home, Friends/Community, and Sweet Adelines. I wrote them all down on a sheet of paper, leaving lots of room for brainstorming under each category.
2. For each of those categories, I'm writing down how I want to feel this year within that category. For example, under the "Family" category, I want to feel Loved/Loving, Connected, Fun, Supportive. Under the "Sweet Adelines" category, I want to feel Artistic, Invigorated, Challenged, Creative, Fun. And so on, for each of the categories. There's no right or wrong answer here. There can be overlap between the categories - you'll see "fun" show up on almost all of my category lists.
3. Next, I'm brainstorming. I am listing what kinds of things I can do so that I can end up feeling the way I want to feel. This step is a true brainstorm - no judgment or evaluation of the ideas yet, just list anything that comes to mind that could contribute to the feelings I'm seeking. For example, under the Sweet Adelines category, if I want to feel Challenged, then I could take vocal lessons, try new kinds of music, take on a more active coaching role, etc. I'm making a big, long list of ideas, and really putting some "crazy" ideas down that will stretch me and put me a little bit out of my comfort zone.
4. Next, I'm rearranging, organizing, and prioritizing the list of things to do. This is the step I'm at right now. I've got way more ideas listed than I'll realistically be able to do, mainly due to time and money limitations. So I have to make some choices about which ones will be most likely to help me get to those feel-good feelings I'm looking for. What do I really want out of my 2015? What things will really help me get there? I'm paring down my list, choosing things that might cross categories, choosing things that will stretch me, or will most likely satisfy my wishes for feeling good.
5. Next, (when I'm done with step 4), I'll make my list of Resolutions, and publish them here. I'll do a weekly check-in here too. I'm committing to myself to not lose sight of my goals, to give myself the gift of follow-through. I'll have the weekly chance to evaluate and re-evaluate, and if things aren't working I'll be able to change things up to get back on track.
I'm in the middle of Step 3 and Step 4 right now. In the next day or two, I hope to have this process complete, and ready to publish.
This is by far the most thorough and involved New Year's Resolution activity I've ever completed. It sounds like over-kill maybe. Too structured? Too intense? I don't know. Maybe. But maybe it's just what I need right now. I'll give it a go, and check in later to see how it feels.
How about you? Are you making any resolutions for 2015? Or do you swear off resolutions? Are you doing something else to guide your path through the coming months? I'd love to hear about it. Please do drop a message in the comments, let's chat!
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Sunday, December 28, 2014
Gratitude - Day 360-362 - Dec 26-28, 2014
We've been spending the last few days just hanging out with our grown kids, our future daughter-in-law, and my husband's father, and it's been wonderful.
Friday, December 26, 2014
Thursday, December 25, 2014
Advent 2014 - Christmas Day - Celebration
"As we find ourselves wrapped in the season of wonder and light, the astonishment that is life ignites our spirits, and we feel, if merely for a moment, that we are as we were meant to be.
"May we hold fast to this sliver of mystery, this truth upon which we set the whole of who we are. May we call ourselves back to it time and again, until we are filled with the wonder that is our life– its hope, its peace, its joy, its love. Infused, then, with all that we are, may our energies be given to the transformation of this world–from despair into hope; from darkness into light; from fear into love. May we be bold. May we be daring. May we be love."
by Greta Vosper
Gratitude - Day 357-359 - Dec 23-25, 2014
Amidst the busyness of this holiday, the noisiness of the gathered family, the continuous dishwashing and cookie decorating, the bits of wrapping paper and ribbon, I'm so grateful for all of my blessings.
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